We need to talk… about breakups. We’re sorry to say this over text (well, article) but it turns out they can cost a fair bit more than you’d expect.
For a lot of us, the go-to way to heal a broken heart is to treat ourselves to things that we don’t exactly need, but we very much want.
That new top you’ve had your eye on? In the basket. Overpriced chocolate? In the belly. Fancy fresh haircut? Done (and shared on Insta).
But read on to find out how much these ‘little’ post-break-up treats will actually cost you…
Most common types of breakup
According to recent research from Direct Line, in partnership with Celebs Go Dating‘s Anna Williamson, digital technology plays a pretty big part in our breakups.
Not only do 20% of those aged 17–25 meet their partner through a dating app or on social media, but most relationships in this age group end via tech as well.
The 2,053 people in this survey said that these were the worst ways someone had broken up with them:
- Over text – 38%
- Through social media – 15%
- Ghosting – 15%
- In person – 14%
- By phone call – 12%.
Any form of breakup is hard, but we were surprised to see ghosting significantly below getting told over text. Surely a quick message is better than nothing?!
How technology affects relationships and breakups
The research shows that digital technology plays such a big part in relationships, that 20% of young people say that they started relationships for tactical, rather than romantic, reasons – like looking good on Instagram.
Anna Williamson from Celebs Go Dating suggests that, as well as impacting how we meet and break up with each other, our use of digital tech can also make it harder to get over people. She said:
Resist any urges to look at exes’ social media profiles as it will just exacerbate any upsetting feelings.
Instead do some fun things with your friends and family, whose company you enjoy, to help distract and pull you through the breakup grief.
We couldn’t agree more. After a breakup, 10% are said to block their ex – every relationship/breakup is different, but if it feels right, unfollowing your ex can be a good way to get closure and create some distance.
When in relationships, 16% of people aged 17–25 admit to getting annoyed if their partner likes other people’s photos. This in itself can be damaging, and falling into the trap of feeling like this isn’t any more helpful (or nice ) after you’ve broken up.
So, when getting over someone, we’d suggest avoiding social media, spending time with your nearest and dearest, and trying not to spend quite as much money as the average person…
How much do young people spend on breakups?
Direct Line found out how much young people spend on breakups – and it’s an eye-watering amount.
The research showed that the average 17–25-year-old will spend a (heartbreaking) £1,140 in the aftermath of relationships.
It’s revealed that 34% of young people buy new clothes to cope with breakups, closely followed by 33% going on nights out.
What’s more, 30% spend their money on comfort food, 20% get beauty treatments and a worrying 19% buy intoxicating substances like alcohol and drugs.
They also found that some people have to make a few bigger, and tougher, spends. These include moving out, with 8% having to find a new place to live, and 5% needing to learn to drive if they’d relied on their ex for transport.
Here’s a rundown of your average spend per purchase after breakups:
|Intoxicating substances (i.e. alcohol and drugs)||£136.05|
How to save money on self-care
When you’re getting over a relationship, it’s natural to want to indulge a little. You’re bound to feel quite down at first, but there are so many ways to get over a breakup without your bank account taking a hit.
Here are 10 cheap ways to treat yourself:
- If you fancy buying new clothes, check out secret sales websites for the best deals
- Get Headspace for free with Spotify Premium
- Exercise is such a good way to let off steam and there are loads of cheap ways to keep fit without going to the gym
- Spend time with dogs (this can help your mood AND uni work)
- Get a takeaway for less
- Improve your cooking skills – this will help you eat well, and it’s a fun hobby
- Take time off to go to a festival
- Book a low-cost holiday with friends
- Get free and cheap cinema tickets
- Throw yourself into your favourite hobbies, and maybe even make money from them as a freelancer.
When going through breakups, it’s super important to put yourself first and look after your mental health.